I have been reading CaseInterview.com's material for a few months and got quite inspired by Victor Cheng - a successful strategy consultant, coach and obviously writer. I wanted to share one of his highly inspiring and uplifting testimony and message.
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The following story is about consulting, but it may not seem like it at first.
When I was 14 years old, I was in my first year of high school. A friend of mine Eric and I were sitting near the edge of campus one day looking at the (American) football team on its first day of practice. We stood there quietly for a long time.
We stared at the team; we looked at each other; we looked back at the team.
I know he and I were thinking the same thing:
1) I am a nerd, I have no business playing football.
2) Football is for the popular kids, and I'm SO not one of the popular kids
3) I'm tiny. Those seniors (4th years) are HUGE. They probably outweigh me by 50 lbs (20kg).
4) I can't run
5) I can't catch
6) I'm not very strong
7) I'm not very tall
8) I'm not very heavy
I looked at Eric. He was even smaller than I was. He was probably 100 lbs (45kg) lighter than the biggest player on the team and 18" shorter (45cm).
We looked at each other and suddenly we both knew what the other was thinking. We both wanted to play, but we were afraid to go for it.
After what seemed like an hour, we both finally manned up and asked each other, so you wanna go for it?
I said, "Why Not?"
And he said, "Yeah... why not us?"
And at that moment we both decided we were going to be (American) football players.
Even though this conversation was decades ago, I still remember those magical words.... "Why not us?"
Those words would change the rest of our lives.
It was the day we both decided to do what WE wanted, not just what others expected from us, our status in life, or our position in the high school "society".
We were going to go for it even if we would get knocked on our backs everyday (which did happen), got ran over (that happened too), got stepped on (yup, that too) and pretty much be live hitting dummies for the bigger players.
Of all my friends in high school, I deeply ADMIRED Eric the most. He was not the smartest, strongest or most talented kid in school. On the football team he was both the shortest and the lightest and probably the weakest too.
But there was one thing, you could always count on Eric for:
1) He would NEVER quit... no matter how bad things got, no matter how much physical humiliation he endured, he would just never quit.
2) He NEVER complained... not a single time.
One time he went head to head against a teammate who was at least 100lb (45kg) heavier than him. He got knocked backwards, flew completely in the air and landed on has back 6 feet BEHIND (2 meters) where he started from. I was standing nearby and I could hear the THUD of his body colliding with the ground. Even then he didn't complain.
3) He used EVERYTHING he had.
He basically got pummeled everyday for 4 years. He kept showing up anyways. He would usually play the role of the opposing team. This allowed the starting team someone to practice against. I was on the starting team, and basically we just pounded the heck out of him daily.
He worked hard to give the starting team as realistic a practice opponent as he puny little body could deliver.
By the end of 4 years, he had achieved something very significant. While he did not play much in games, he had earned the respect of every player on the team.
This was just how Eric lived life.
In his home life, none of his parents, uncles, aunts, brothers or sisters had gone to college.
What Eric did on the football field, he also did in the classroom. He was never the best (but always close), but he put 100% of what he had into his school work.
In every respect, in every domain, Eric had something that would stay with him his whole life.
He had the WINNER'S ATTITUDE.
When college admissions came around, Harvard University accepted him.
I wasn't surprised.
Later, I learned he graduated from Harvard, Magna Cum Laude (near the top of his class).
I wasn't surprised then either.
If I recall correctly, at Harvard, he joined the Harvard/MIT ROTC program. In exchange for joining the US Navy, the government would pay for much or all of his Harvard tuition. When he graduated, he served on a submarine (I think) as a nuclear engineer. Yes, the US government trusted him with its nuclear material.
I wasn't surprised by that either.
When he left the Navy, he went to Wharton. After he got his MBA, he went to work at one of the top 7 consulting firms in the US.
Once again, I wasn't surprised.
And the reason I mention this story is because a few months ago Eric made "partner" at his firm.
Like everything he has accomplished, I wasn't surprised by that either. At every step of the way, he EARNED his success.
But the real reason I admire Eric is because even though he started with very little, he was always willing to USE IT ALL to see how far he could go in everything he did.
I have written previously about the difference between perfection and excellence. Perfection is trying to attain the impossible -- a mythical standard (usually set by others) that is beyond human. Excellence is about achieving the absolute most you can achieve given what you have to work with.
While he never achieved perfection, in my mind, Eric epitomizes EXCELLENCE.
I have been absolutely thrilled by his success ever since we were friends as kids.
Most people think you are successful when you accomplish something specific -- obtain a specific degree, get a specific job offer, earn a specific level of income. For many years, I thought this way too.
However, I've come to realize I was wrong about all that.
Success is a way of BEING. It is a set of DAILY CHOICES.
I think back to that day when Eric and I decided "Why not us?"
That moment epitomizes a series of choices he's made daily for decades.
Today, most people recognized his status as partner at LEK as THE achievement of his career. But, I know better.
He became successful, as a way of life, the day he and I said, "Why not us?"
THAT decision was when he choose success. He decided to live the life of success, and he immediately WAS successful -- his achievements just took some time to catch up.
Like I emphasize in my Strategic Outlier Letter, if you too would like to be successful, the process is simple.
Just DECIDE to be successful.
Make the choice.
Put in the work. (Disclosure: It is NOT easy)
Focus on the PROCESS of success -- just as Eric did.
Then don't worry about the achievements. They will come when they do as they are just natural consequences of the choices you make.
The key is to DECIDE and then willingly embrace all that your choice entails.
Thanks,
-Victor Cheng
-Victor Cheng
Founder, Strategic Outlier Letter
www.StrategicOutlier.com
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